I co worker of mine recently got on a kick of realizing how “bad” social media is and how she’s deleted her apps and wants to live more “in the moment.” Spouting all the ways social media is ruining our lives, robbing our children of nostalgia etc. How when we go out we’re too concerned about how our food will look in a picture on Instagram or Facebook.
Maybe I truly just have beef with her, but I don’t agree with this 100%. Maybe I really am just annoyed by being grouped in with the “we.”
Firstly, yes there have been moments when I’ve been aware that I should be spending time with my kids. Or I’ve forced myself to put my phone down to spend time with them. Fair enough. But I don’t think it’s ruining my life. I understand that it’s everyone’s highlight reel and I try to treat it as such.
I’ve thought many times about deleting my Facebook account. But I have family on my Facebook page who I like to keep up with. I also have friends all over the country, friends who travel. I enjoy seeing what other people are up to. I have friends that I just don’t see who I can keep up with on social media. Sure it would be better so see them in person but we have different lives. I’m married with two kids and a full time job. One of my friends is a musician and writer. He keeps a very active Snapchat and Twitter which is a great way to keep tabs on him and what’s going on. Our schedules are complete opposites, I’ve run into him maybe once every three years and we live in the same city.
I certainly have not been one who takes a picture of every thing I eat or drink. I did specifically take photos in the past but it was for a review or blog post and that was years ago. Another time I’ll take a picture of my food is when I’m meal prepping to show my accountability group that I’m a part of. I don’t view that as a universal issue. Another thing, I couldn’t possibly care less about what people think of my social media accounts or how a picture looks. Especially if I’m out with my husband which so rarely happens, I put my phone down and only check to see if whomever is watching the kiddos has texted or called with questions or anything like that. Maybe I just haven’t let social media rule my life. Yes I do check it but I try to be specific, check on a friend or my group. I don’t feel the need to be on it all the time.
Another concern is our kids being to attached to their devices and not having nostalgia when they’re older. I don’t really think that’s something we can control. Sure I don’t want my kids glued to the TV. My oldest still plays outside and wants to ride his bike forever in the summer. He also likes to play with cars and tracks and marble runs. Does he have his own tablet? Yes. Sometimes it gives me the peace I need when I have to get something done. Or it keeps him at the table to eat his food.
I think what she’s referring to is what we as 90s kids experienced where we had the regular childhood of playing outside and with toys. Then in the beginning of adolescence we got our cell phones and by the time we we’re in college everyone had a smartphone. Our childhoods changed so quickly with technology and we wished we could go back to simpler times. Our kids aren’t going to have that. They just aren’t.
Our kids are an entirely different generation. No I don’t want them to constantly be on their phones. I want them to have social skills and friends. To have conversations and go do things with their friends. Go play disc golf or go to the movies But I also recognize that they’re going to be different. My husband had friends who he gamed with and some friends he went out and did fun things with. But that doesn’t mean he has no nostalgia for his childhood. He’s nostalgic about old games he played and fun things he did with his friends. Just because we have social media and more technology doesn’t mean our kids will have a less than childhood and never have nostalgia. Nostalgia is defined as a sentimental longing or wistful affection for the past. I doubt that our children will be at a loss when it comes to nostalgia.